The Sacred
Male
Mentoring Men to Discover the Sacredness of Masculinity in the Service of Love
You are a good man. You treat women right and you love’ em deeply… But your love life is a litany of blunders, breakups and heartbreak—seemingly without rhyme or reason.
The marketplace of dating apps does not work for you, or even you are married to a woman you love but she has not made love to you for the last eight months. There is no color, no dance. Even worse, you feel you have lost her admiration. You feel disconnected, lost and would give your right arm to know the reasons why. My name is Andrea Villa, I did give an arm. It was worth it. Now I mentor men to find and reconnect with their authority and agency in erotic love.
I found the reasons for my troubles and now I am enchanted with the rhyme. It is an ancient one. Men of the past, the initiated knight/poets of the middle ages, drunken Greek philosophers, Sufi mystics and other riff raffs used to sing it much louder than us. I have learnt from them. I hear them like a cosmic tinnitus. I call their song the Erotic Discipline of Men. I articulated it in a Code: the Erotic Code of Man. That is what I teach.
What is the difference between relationship skills and Love skills?
Knowing what and how to inspire Love in a woman is a love skill
Knowing how to serve your woman, the feminine and Love itself with your love making is a love skill.
Knowing what are the criteria to have in order to choose a partner for a committed relationship is a love skill
Knowing that the main focus of Love is not the ‘other’ or the relationship, but you, is a very important love skill.
Knowing that women and men manifest their love in different ways is a love skill.
Relationships skills are focused on the ‘other’ and have the purpose of facilitating, maintaining and increasing the bond between two individuals. For instance, effective communication, active listening, and the capacity to set boundaries are all relationship skills.
The problem is there can even be long term committed relationships that function well, where both partners possess high communication skills, where Love is dead.
On the other hand, a woman can be madly in love with a man whose relationship skills are nil. You can have all the relationship skills in the world and not know how Love works. Love skills are not about the other, they are about your competence with Love itself.
I discovered my troubles had nothing to do with my lack of Relationship Skills. That is the fable we are all told. The domain of relational skills belongs to women not to us men. It is their genius. Their body is the body of the ‘two’, geared to be in intimacy with another human being. It is the gift the Gods have given them to be attuned to children as they grow within and without them. That is what they excel at and what they teach us. We have the body of the ‘one’. We have no natural relational inclination. If anything we are geared for conflict. We are clueless in intimacy. It is not our genius. Love skills are our genius. And I was in trouble because I lacked Love Skills. I did not know how Eros or Love works.
Once you develop these competencies in Love, relationships will fall into place, for the simple reason that you will fall into place. You will discover that Eros is not a vitamin you take to spice up your sexual life but a great call toward your adventure—the full expression of your beauty and purpose in the world. Eros has a great ambition and single focus: to take each of us on a journey to the origins of beauty.
There is nothing more solid and attractive than a man who dwells into his own beauty. Come and learn.
Tad Hargrave British Columbia, Canada - Founder of Marketing for Hippies
“I have never met anyone who speaks as beautifully about men, Eros and the deep responsibility of the skill of Love. While so many coaches are feeding the algorithm, Andrea, rough from the hunt, is feeding the world with the poetry of old stories. He is a lightning stick, piercing the clouds of modern, male mediocrity and bringing down the rains that make us weep for the beauty of life and the desire to be worthy and noble again.
Andrea has spent his life cooking an intricate meal for us, and thankfully, for those who forgot how hungry we truly are, he is bringing it out for us to feast.”
Damien Smith Victoria, Australia - Builder
I engaged Andrea after hearing his interview with Ian Mackenzie on the Mythic Masculine podcast. My goals were lofty, esoteric and outside of my capacity—Andrea helped me to find transformation through aspects of my life that I now live and breathe in every day.
Jaime Eggleston Wisconsin, USA - Educator